It is not a secret that I am not the greatest at dating. I was even crowned a "serial dater" for about 3 year's after my son's dad and I split. I just couldn't keep a relationship. And 90% of the time, I didn't even do shit! The dude's I dated were a bunch of moron's. Not men. Children. Some of them didn't even have their own place or steady jobs. I realize now that I did date losers and it wasn't my fault. And everyone kept telling me "The right one will come along".
It was always hard for me to have "date night's" cause I work weekends and I have my son most of the time. Dating someone that didn't have kid's was very challenging. They didn't get it. They didn't realize that my son comes first. Always and Forever. So for me to choose them over my kid, well that was not an option. At all. I am such an asshole that I would even tell myself "my son is going to keep me single". Cause for one, he's very sarcastic. He gives no fucks on who you are. If he feels like saying something that will possibly offend you, he's gonna say it anyway. I am not proud of this little trait he has, but it's who he is. He's still a good kid. A bit naughty sometimes, but smart. Very smart! So I always told myself that it would take a real man to be able to accept the package I come with. So when it came to me planning a date night and I couldn't cause I had my kid, the person I would be dating at the time just didn't get it. I couldn't be with someone that would even remotely make me choose.
I met Monster at the most fucked up time in my life. Like legit, fucked up. I was going through some crazy shit ('Maybe don't swipe at all' blog) and I swore I would never date another man in my life!!! But he came at the right time. I won't say too much about him. People that know me, know us, know that we are solid. The thing about Monster and I is, we have a combined 4 kids together. So date nights are very limited. We try. Lawwwd knows we try. We are always with our kids. Which is great! But I need my man. I miss my man. We see each other about 3x a week. We both work crazy schedule's. So whenever we have the opportunity for a date night, we jump on that shit quick! This past weekend was the first weekend where we were actually together for 2 nights in a row! We haven't done that since we started dating over 6 months ago! I realized this morning how important time is with someone you love. I felt a sense of relief. I felt at ease. I felt less grumpy. I felt the love he has for me. I felt the passion and the intense connection we have. I missed him. I really did. And I realized that we need to do this at least 1x a month. We need to get that spark going again. We are still in the "courting stage" as he likes to call it and we don't take advantage at all. We both know that our kids are in great hands with us. We entertain them a lot. But we are also adults. And we need to do adult things. I can't even tell you how good our weekend was.
Date nights are very important. Whether you've been dating 1 month, 3, 6, 5 years or married for 10. You have to make the time. Pay a 17 year old to watch your kid's. Beg a relative. Make it happen. It gives you sanity back. It makes you appreciate the little things your partner has to offer. Kid's are great! But a nice steak dinner and a show with your love come few and far in between and you gotta enjoy that shit.
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